LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH

Love gets you on the healthy road to a happy marriage. It keeps you in the game. It becomes your drive, your reason, and motivation.

Love, however, is not enough if we want to play the game without backing out or defeat. If we want a healthy and strong relationship with our partners, Love's fuel wouldn't be enough for our journey. It's just a fraction of the bigger picture.

Marriages are the test of our life and emotional strengths and weaknesses. Most love based marriages fall apart and burn to the ground because most of us just follow the high and pay no attention to the real work, this is no surprise at all.

We kick around those who don't marry for love in our culture as bad, stupid, and ignorant unlucky people. We feel there is something wrong with them and we, therefore, sympathize with them because we think we know better to not tie the knot blindly.

But if you critically think about it, love is a nicety. When you marry for love, it substantially means you have all or most of your other needs (and you wouldn't need any other vital stuff). 

This can explain why those that have smaller financial resources also have lower marriage caliber. You are not going to concentrate on finding the woman or man of your dreams if you are troubled about your safety and survival. Unless, of course, the person in your dreams is your passport out of your miserable home, wretched single life, or cloudy bankroll.

Marriage is a powerful union for growth, understanding, words and actions, communication, loyalty, commitment, honesty, and the ability to progress together despite the pain and troubles, not love and probably those small things called children.

200 years ago, the definition of marriage became clear because most people were getting married for political alliances and power. See how the world has changed and progressed due to the powerful union. Love alone couldn't have changed the atmosphere of civilization.

Growing up, my thoughts on "Love conquers all" have been cloudy. Love plays a very little role in marriage. Love is an emotion, which means it can fade or go away. The rate of divorce was way less some centuries ago. But now, the animal called love has taken over and every marriage is unstable. The belief in just love and nothing else has made our visions blurry.

Love is not enough.

Do you feel emotionally safe all the time?

Can trust be broken even in the best of relationships?

Is true love absolute?

Does the frequency of love remain unchanged even when our partners lie to us?

Love is not the most important thing in a relationship.

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