The ability to understand and manage your own emotions and respect the emotions of others can be termed as emotional intelligence.
Daniel Goleman a psychologist identified some characteristics of emotional intelligence:
* Social skills
* Empathy
* Self-awareness
* Self-regulation
* Motivation
We operate in a world of change, uncertainty, and unpredictability. And this is why evoking emotional intelligence in our daily lives will help us build stronger relationships, influence others, and help others get around difficulties.
But how can we do that?
Imma show you where to start if you want your conversations to go in the right direction.
1. THE BLAME GAME SUCKS.
Blame is a certain way to get someone to become defensive or shut down. Avoid this always. Instead of saying "You need to..." rather say "I'd like you to..."
2. CRITICIZE WISELY.
Before you say anything, think, I repeat think and decide on what actually the other person has done. Help more with a solution than just pointing out the wrong spots.
3. BE TACTICAL WITH YOUR LANGUAGE.
Instead of saying You are wrong or incompetent, you can say "it would be great if you could..." Using the right words can give your conversation a positive twist.
4. WATCH, DON'T JUST LISTEN.
Pay attention to every single detail, that will help you analyze situations better to give a good judgement.
5. RATIFY YOUR UNDERSTANDING.
When emotions are going high, it's easier to get confused. So you can restate everything you heard to be sure that you are actually following.
How high is your EQ?
Why does it matter?
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