If it feels like cheating to you, then it is, period. Betraying your partner because your expectations haven't been met is cheating. People think if their partners engage in any of the activities below with other people outside their relationship, they are FREAKING CHEATING! :
*Providing emotional support.
*Sexting.
*(In private) Discreetly Texting.
*Flirting.
*(Unless to a relative) Gift giving.
*Discussing sexually related things.
And many other funny things... (Don't be an emotional beast)
All these acts are believed to have a toxic impact on our relationships. You'd probably yell to the hearing of the Pope when you see your partner having sex with another person, wouldn't you?
Cheating can be defined in so many ways. Some Relationships wouldn't even shake when both partners are flirting with other people (but mine and yours will boil like a volcano). Married people, ha, also have a definition for cheating, especially when they skipped the conversations of infidelity before their union.
Are you feeling sad, bitter, angry as a result of questionable behavior? If you say yes, then your significant other is plainly cheating.
THE TALK
The ambiguity of the discussion of deal breakers in a relationship can be the wheels and tires for cheating and other acidic activities. If you just tell your partner that "hey, cheating is a no-no in our relationship" full stop and you don't explain further, this is open to millions of interpretations.
Well, they could say that they didn't have any idea of the things you considered as cheating. This might not be easy to communicate due to personal differences and opinions but you've got to share your feelings regardless. A lot is going to happen during the discussion, you may even be charged with overreacting and all.
It is vital in a relationship to remember that no matter what, your feelings are always important. Although you can't impel someone to accept your personal opinion on cheating, you can express the pain caused by the actions. You still have the power to live with it or move the hell out to another happier and more trusting relationship if you realize that your partner might never provide validation to your views.
Everyone is unique. The key is to puzzle out what kind of connection works best for you, and then be true to yourself and honor who you are. It may take some experimentations to discover what's most uppish to you, but each new connection will teach you expensive lessons about yourself, even those that end in heartbreak.
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